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Today’s Daf Yomi Question:
The Gemara says that regarding monetary matters, one may harbor ill (even to a Torah scholar) until he actually returns the money to its rightful owner. Apparently teshuva (repentance) is not suffiecient. How is this consistent with the Gemara in Kiddushin (49b) which states that if one in mekadesh a woman on condition that he is a tzaddik, even if he was a known rasha (presumably having violated interpersonal monetary prohibitions as well) nevertheless the Kiddushin is valid on the chance that he quickly repented in his heart. In our Gemara it seems that simply contemplating thoughts of teshuva is not sufficient regarding monetary matters, unless he substantiates it with proper action.
In this shiur you spoke about the beis din placing a stone on the coffin of someone who was in a state of nidui. Is this a source of the custom of putting a stone on the grave of relatives when visiting the cemetery?
That’s an interesting correlation. The reason given for the first practice is in order to impress on the public to recall his status, which will serve as a deterrent for the future. The reason for the second minhag is to leave behind a physical remembrance of our visit, which serves to add honor the departed. We do so by ‘contributing’ something to the memorial of the loved one. So yes, they are somewhat related.